Are same sex couples the same as straight couples?

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Answered by: Alex, An Expert in the Sexuality for Teenagers Category
It's no coincidence that people who have personal connections with gay people are more likely to support gay marriage. Ask any heterosexual who supports gay marriage why and they will probably answer with some form of "because gay couples are just the same as every other couple". Let's examine this - how similar are gay couples to straight couples?Homosexuality is the same as heterosexuality in the same way that left handed people are the same as right handed people. We know this for a fact because of science - even though it is quite obvious. Homosexuality and heterosexuality are just different variations of human sexuality. There is no doubt of this fact, it is as scientifically sound as saying that left handed people are the same as right handed people. Remember when left handed people were burnt at the stake?

Though this doesn't fully answer our question. Let's look at it like this - what affect does the sexuality of an opposite sex couple (assuming both were heterosexual) have on their relationship? The only affect the sexuality of the individuals have on the relationship is sex and mutual attraction. We are wired to want sex. Sex, sex and more sex. This is of course so the human race continues to exist. But that's not why we have sex. When we have sex we're not thinking "oh yes it's great to participate in the continued existence of the human species"; rather you are thinking "YES, YES, OH YES", or shouting for that matter. We have sex for the pleasure. Even when a couple is trying to get pregnant, they're only able to have sex because they're sexually turned on. Gay people have sex for the same reason as straight people, for the enjoyment and the connection it builds in a relationship. The wanting of a child is not a sexual desire, hence why the desire to have children can be fulfilled by adopting. And there's you're answer - sex and mutual attraction is the only affect sexuality has on a couple, hence why it's called "sexuality".

This is why if you ridded every couple of their gender you would not be able to identify the same sex couples, they'd just blend in with all the other couples - the happy couples, the sad ones, the broken ones, the abusive ones, etc. Not only is this logical, it's also backed up by statistics. This is why love knows no gender, because love is not defined nor controlled by the sexual organs that you posses. You fall in love with someone because you are attracted to them - it's important to note that attraction does not solely consist of sexual attraction. This is why a straight guy won't fall in love with a gay guy (fall in love as in the romantic sense - but not in the sense as "best friends") and likewise a gay guy won't fall in love with a girl.

From this we can gather why same sex couples function in the same way as straight couples. Finally, let's look at an example of a relationship, the steps in bold are those affected by sexuality:

Two people meet who are mutually attracted to each other --> they enjoy each others company, they enjoy the mutual attraction --> they spend time together --> they fight --> they get use to each others bad and good habits --> they fall deeply in love --> they go threw bad and good times --> they support each other when support is need --> and so on.

This helps us visualize how insignificant the differences are between same sex and opposite sex couples.

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